A guest post by my friend Jonathan Jay Esslinger
Healthy relationships have a lot of honest self-disclosure. The topic of honesty comes up enough in our clinical settings that it is worth exploring deeper.
This post offers a sort of primer on things that relationship experts would encourage you to consider around honesty and self-disclosure. This is the kind of relationship advice a professional relationship counsellor would give to you. READ MORE
Writing your online dating profile and selecting your best photographs are the most challenging steps for most of the 91 million people around the world, using relationship and dating sites.
It “should” be straightforward and simple to express the essence of you, in an intriguing intelligent and engaging way.
The truth is, all the advice in the world doesn’t change the fact that, that writing about you, in such a personal way, is intimidating, and makes us feel vulnerable and nervous.
The added pressure of being “out there” in public intensified it. READ MORE
The stigma once attached to using Online Dating is outdated. It's now a credible and convenient way to connect, to other likeminded singles you would not ordinarily have the chance to meet in your day-to-day busy life.
The fact that only 2% of couples have met at a bar (eHarmony), tells us that isn't enough.
Relationship sites are now used more by relationship-minded singles in their 30’s 40’s and over than ever before. HERE
One of the most frequently asked questions I receive, by women is how can they tell the man they’re dating is genuine and sincere.
Especially when he says all the right things when they’re dating.
These aren’t inexperienced women. They are smart, successful, educated and savvy in business and life.
They, like many women, who have encountered their fair share of players, over the top charmers, and married men pretending to be single or separated; don’t want to raise their hopes just to be disappointed again. READ MORE
Dating and finding one of the most significant relationships in your life can and should take time.
The journey needs patience and resilience to handle the inevitable setbacks along the way.
What are the dating challenges ruminating in your mind?
Your beliefs can be the biggest obstacles to attracting your ideal partner, and often are.
Are your beliefs supporting your mission to attract your ideal partner?
Have you been stuck in the dating scene for way too long?
I had the pleasure of being interviewed by datingspot.co.uk for their interview series with International dating experts. I share my thoughts on dating, game playing, and what men and women are looking for. READ MORE
Just a few years ago, online dating was shunned as the lazy or desperate way of finding your match.
In fact, the practice has become so prevalent, that meeting someone offline will soon be a rarity.
Before going online, it’s important to know what you’re doing. Listed below are six tips you should follow for dating in the digital age. READ MORE
I'm a believer in setting a strong foundation for dating success, which starts with us.
With that said, here are my "12 Back to Basics Principals for Dating Success" to support you in dating authentically, confidently and trusting yourself without overwhelm and confusion
I recommend keeping these in mind as your dating compass to keep you on track during your dating journey. READ MORE
It usually takes being blind-sided by a bad relationship to realize what a good one should really feel like.
I have heard many similar stories of disappointment, from smart, successful, loving male and female coaching clients
So why do people miss or ignore red flags, when it comes to choosing and committing to a partner that isn't right for them.
As unromantic as it may feel sometimes, our journey to finding real love today needs the right amount of “work”.
It’s worth it though right?
After all, you’re selecting one of the most important relationships in your life without settling or compromising on your most important needs.
Your selective, smart dating plan and staying open are the keys to creating many high-quality opportunities for you to meet that one special person.
ARE YOUR “MUST HAVE’S” RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL? READ MORE
Your “list” can and often does make the difference between moving you towards a meaningful relationship or holding you back from one.
Here’s why it’s important to distinguish between being “picky” and having the right high standards.
The big difference between having High Standards and being Picky. read more
many of us are not trained or taught how to have lasting, committed relationships; and underestimate the self-preparation needed to date smart, chose selectively, and to navigate the normal ups and downs of sharing your life with a partner READ MORE
If these 5 qualities don’t make you feel safe or impress you; then their looks, education, and even values really don’t count at all. READ MORE
We hear countless reasons why high value, attractive, successful relationship ready women have not been inspired by their date.
Some reasons are down to being too picky, but overall there are common and distinct differences between the men which have that “edge” and inspire interest and attraction in women; and those who were forgotten by the time she returned home or by the end of the week/month. Read More
Your level of Emotional Maturity, and of the people you date ultimately determine your level of dating success read more
I once went on a date with a gorgeous guy that I was star struck by, and took him a gift on the first date! read more
One of the most common reasons that dating someone new doesn't progress to a relationship; and why some relationships end as quickly as they started, for secure emotionally healthy and happy men and women is... read more
Let’s face it, as a smart, experienced single lady or man you’ve reached a point in your life where you absolutely know what you don’t want in a relationship.
You don’t want to waste time on the wrong relationship that’s for sure.
You have failed relationships and painful break-ups behind you, and you’re not going to settle. You shouldn’t!
“There is an epidemic of boring in our society. And this plagues all of us.
Boring kills dates, networking events, sales and deals.
But, when we fight dullness we are more attractive, more memorable and more likable”. Vanessa van Edwards- the science of people
Our conversational skills are one way to avoid being boring and are often taken for granted and under-estimated.